When it comes to personal correspondence, it can be difficult to write the greeting line on the envelope - especially when the wife keeps her maiden name or a relative lives with the family.

While researching the subject for my website, OfficeAnimation.com, I found differing opinions on what etiquette prescribes. Even Miss Manners says there is no one right way so as not to offend.

The best solution - ask and record. The way people want to be addressed is very individual, especially with women. Some care that you remembered to put Jr. or III. Others would rather you use their nickname or middle name instead of their first.

These personal preferences as well as knowing the name of a wife or child are all part of relationship building.

From a series of sources, I have put together some guidelines for addressing cards for holidays and special occasions. Read more…